Christian dating physical attraction
Question: "How important is physical attraction when looking for a spouse?" Answer: There is no doubt that God created men and women to be physically attracted to one another."I had emailed Americo [the former minister] a dating question," Spenceley began: "" "I think I used to believe that the paramount standard was attraction," Spenceley continued."I thought that’s where you start—you pick from the pool of people to whom you’re attracted, and see which of them meets your standards." Americo disagreed.Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart" (1 Samuel 16:7).A prospective husband or wife should be a genuine, born-again Christian who is growing and maturing in the faith and who is obedient to Christ.That which the world finds beautiful falls well below the standard of beauty described in Scripture.
) To be fair, some of Americo’s advice was indeed pretty solid: "The paramount standard in a potential spouse is his or her commitment to you becoming a saint," Spencely paraphrased her former minister. Unfortunately, he followed them up with this strained analogy: "Holy Spirit goggles are the opposite of beer goggles." "If we’re open to looking at people like God looks at people," Spenceley summed up Americo’s argument, "then people who once were too tall, or too short, or too whatever else, suddenly can become beautiful." It sounds to me like what Americo meant to say was that "Holy Spirit goggles" (where can I get a pair of these, incidentally? ) are the spiritual of beer goggles, not their opposite; that just as beer goggles make physically unattractive people look better after a few rounds at the bar, Holy Spirit goggles do the same thing after a few rounds of Adoration or Scripture study.This is not to say that physical attraction is the most important aspect to be considered when looking for a husband or wife.For one thing, beauty should not be defined by the world.But here’s the thing: that analogy is terrible not just because of its poor construction, but because what spouse wants to believe that his or her beloved had to put on social media) tells us all day long that we’re not good enough – that it’s not just celebrities, the super-wealthy and the occasional freak of nature who can do the work and spend the cash to look magazine cover-worthy, we can (and therefore should).Thanks to the wonder of photo editing software and filtering apps, it can often seem like the entire world is one giant studio lot, full of sets where we act out the lives we think we’re supposed to have – that we’re …we’d like to have one more word with you.