by Shelley Poston It can be difficult to be clear-headed in a dating relationship.
It is easy to see only the positive in the other person and completely ignore any warning signs. It would be foolish to date someone and not even consider the possible outcomes.
It’s an good question that needs to be considered seriously. The same applies for sexual innuendo that is inappropriate before marriage.
If he is always broaching conversations about sex, he is not doing a good job of helping you to protect your mind against lust before marriage.
I am not implying that a man has to be a prude, but he is to be a protector.
If a man is addicted to pornography, he is already committing adultery/fornication in his heart, even before you tie the knot.
Spouse abuse by an angry man does not usually randomly begin fifteen years into a marriage. Abuse is not only physical- it can also be emotional. If he is more concerned with worldly pleasure than pleasing God in being an honorable and responsible man, this is not the kind of man who will rightly point his family toward Christ-likeness. The Bible has a name for the guy who has the Peter-Pan syndrome: he is called “the sluggard.” Proverbs mentions him several times, including in Proverbs 6:9-11, which states, “How long will you lie there, O sluggard? A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest, and poverty will come upon you like a robber, and want like an armed man.” What is this man’s work ethic? Is he unhealthily dependent on his friends or family?
You are both sinners and you will sin against each other.Those who voted all said names on posts work better and no requested the anonymous option.We'll have a week long transition period and after that posts marked anonymous will not be accepted.Because so often, “Love is blind,” input and counsel from other people around you will be very helpful to spot positives or negatives in a relationship. All of these points, of course, you should prayerfully consider in your own life.If we as women are unwilling to be above reproach in these areas, why should we expect that from men?